What if three words could help you find purpose and significance in your life.
Sounds like a load of BS.
After all, life is supposed to be hard and a struggle. Isn't it?
Or is that just the mind keeping you in it's comfort zone? After all, the mind loves what’s familiar.
Could you imagine writing that book or inventing that thing which has been inside you head for years. What about building that company.
A life so fulfilled you cannot wait to get out of bed in the morning.
Introducing three words and repeating them everyday could have the most powerful and radical transformation on all areas of your life.
It’s got to be worth a try.
How The Mind Works
To really understand why words are so powerful, it helps to understand how the mind actually works.
The first thing you need to know is, your mind has one job to do...
To keep you alive for as long as possible.
This means happiness, joyfulness, contentment are further down the list of priorities for your brain.
The second thing you need to know is, you need to form a partnership with your brain. Which means working together in unison and not against one another.
This is because, every word you say is a blueprint that your mind, body and psyche are working to make your reality.
In short, you thoughts can be your medicine or your poison.
Thankfully, we have both a choice and the control of what we say and think to ourselves.
This perpetual cycle of negative self talk is what lies behind most people’s lack of confidence and self esteem.
When we repeatedly talk to ourselves in this way, its of little wonder why we feel, we arn't enough.
I don't hear any small children speaking to themselves the same way we do as we get older.
Imagine walking past a 4 year old in the street and hearing them say "I am so bad at walking" I don't like who I am" "I am so bad at playing chase" I am no good" we would be mortified.
As adults we try to get over this unworthiness and low self esteem by convincing ourselves if we buy a bigger house, buy our 9th pair of shoes or jump into another relationship it's going to fix all of our problems.
These materialistic objects and unhealthy relationships are only fillers to patch over the emptiness we feel inside.
The emptier we feel the more s#hit we have and the more toxic our relationships seem to be.
The funny thing is the word esteem means respect and admiration.
So start by giving yourself permission to say nice things to yourself and your self esteem will increase tenfold.
When this happens, you begin to realise the most important relationship you have is the one with yourself.
Give Your Brain An Instructional Manual
Have you ever seen a dog getting let off it's lead and running around in circles. It looks like it's lost it's mind...
This is what your brain looks like if you don't give it an instructional manual to follow each day.
Your mind loves to be told what to do. This is why we have words, to help give our brain instructions.
At the top of everyone instruction manual needs to be three words.
I AM ENOUGH.
This is because not matter what it is you want in your life, all roads lead back to weather or not you feel deserving.
From money to relationships to a in shape body, if you don't don't feel deserving, you're not going to feel you can have it.
By simply repeating these three words I AM ENOUGH throughout your day , sooner of later you’re going to start believing you are enough.
When your truly feel you are enough, an amazing transformation happens.
People who have great self worth and self esteem are magnets for abundance, healthy relationships and are master’s at creating an extraordinary life for themselves.
You can be too.
There is no difference between me and you. Or you and Oprah, other than the words we say to ourselves.
In fact, you probably had more money than Oprah when she first started out.
We are all giving the same amount of time in our day.
But, it's what we do with it and how we think that determines what we get out of it.
If Oprah walked around with feeling inadequate, low self esteem, lacking in confidence, there is no way she could be the entrepreneur she is today.
The most important words you hear in your entire life, are the words you say to yourself.
Do you really hear that?
The language in which you communicate with yourself shapes your entire reality.
When you know this to be true, you can really take control over your life.
If your dream is to launch and grow a successful business, lose weight or find your soul mate, then start telling your mind exactly what it is that you want.
Begin by saying more powerful words to yourself:
Make a habit of repeating statements of truth, otherwise known as affirmation throughout your day, everyday.
Your mind learns through repetition, so be sure to include this as part of your daily instructional manual and breakthrough your self limiting belief patterns.
The world deserves your greatest self.
Listen To Your Inner Dialogue
Have you ever been in a a toxic cycle of negativity and fear thinking before?
Having experienced my fair share of anxiety, I've definitely been in this situation way too many times.
My mind latching from one fearful thought to another, and me wondering how the F#ck do I stop this cycle.
I remember one particular bad patch of anxiety. We had just moved to New Zealand and we were living in a tent. We were looking for a accommodation and work so we could have a base and see the country. Oh, and I forgot to mention we had two small children.
During this period I was experiencing high levels of anxiety. It felt as though by entire body was constantly in a fight and flight mode.
I didn't know how to turn the button off or more importantly where the button was so I could turn it off.
So I did something that I had never done before. I laid down and I surrender to these feelings and the thoughts.
If you have experienced anxiety before , you know how hard this is.
For the first time in my life I became the witness of the emotion rather than the emotion itself.
During this surrender is was so obvious that my mind had steered so far of course and was repeating one fearful thought to the next.
So I began an exercise that I had never done before. With each negative thought, I would counteract with a positive thought. And so it began. The journey towards mastering my inner dialogue.
During this time of heighten state of anxiety I did what I always do.
Learn, learn and Learn.
The more I understand my behaviour the more I can teach others.
It was during this hunger for knowledge I stumbled upon Marisa Peer.
Marisa Peer is a very successful therapist and human behaviour expert.
Her work has reached celebrities to royals and everyone else in between.
She is the pioneer of the I AM ENOUGH movement.
Have you heard the saying “When the student is ready the teacher appears”. That's exactly what happened.
Hungry for all her knowledge and expertise, I devoured video after video learning the power of I AM ENOUGH.
And so without any hesitation whatsoever I began a daily habit of walking up to the affirmation of I AM ENOUGH and end my day with the affirmation of I AM ENOUGH.
Repeating throughout my day these powerful three words has significantly boosted my self esteem and strength-end my capacity to show up in the world, with the best version of myself.
No longer do I feel any inadequacies or shame around my anxiety.
What I love about I AM ENOUGH is, its strength it’s simplicity.
You don’t have to look anywhere other than yourself to witness the difference.
So many people struggle with addictions, anxiety, weight problems, money issues, creative perfectionism all because they didn’t feel they are enough.
In the beginning, when I first started my coaching businesses, I remember the self doubt creeping in on a daily basis. Some days I would think,” f#ck it, I’m over this, nobody’s going to want me to coach them”. Other days I would feel like the next Tony Robbins.
Interestingly, as I affirmed to myself each time I had a negative thought, I AM ENOUGH, I began to notice less and less doubt creeping in.
Anybody who is creative (and I believe we all are) will appreciate the doubt monkey (also known as self doubt).
Most people don’t live the life they want because they don’t feel they are enough and deserving.
Isn't’ that so sad?
Interestingly, we are born with all the love, worthiness and appreciation that we need.
So where does it go?
Quite often through our parents, upbringing or society we pick up negative language patterns and events which have a habit of sticking with us our whole life, unless of course we acknowledge them and change them.
Taking back your power is so easy. And, it starts by making your mind your best friend and giving it clear instructions.
“Your mind is like a ferrari. If you’ve never driven a ferrari it’s going to go all over the place, but if you’ve had ferrari driven lessons, you’re going to run that ferrari. The ferrari should not be running you.”
Your mind will always do what it think’s you want it to do, thats it’s job.
Just like a small child our consciousness cannot differentiate between past of present tense.
Tell your mind using relevant up to the minute words and you will get exactly what you want.
Using these three words which takes around 5 seconds to say will liberate your greatest self.
You attract into your life what you send out in the form of your thoughts.
Thoughts help to create the pictures in our head, which shape and influence what we do, where we go, who we become and the relationships we choose.
In other words, what we say to ourselves has a direct effect on what we experience in our lives.
If your dream is to launch and grow a successful business you need to start talking to yourself as if it's already happened.
Replacing words such as Hope, Wish , But and Should with Can, Will, Could, Am.
You see the success of anything in your life is all down to how you communicate with yourself.
I AM ENOUGH is so effective because we know this to be true. But if you were to say, "I am a entrepreneur" but your living with your mum, your mind is not going to believe this to be true.
Or when you say "I'm thin" but you’re actually overweight. Then everytime you stare at yourself in the mirror, your mind will say "I’m still fat".
But when you state I AM ENOUGH your tapping into to the truth of who you are. So you begin to immediately see the shifts within your energy.
I want to invite you to practice the I AM ENOUGH statement along with me for 30 days and witness the powerful transformation within yourself.
The 30 Day Challenge
- Print out your I AM ENOUGH calendar.
- You’re going to firstly write it on your mirror, choose the mirror where you look at yourself each day.
- And secondly your going to set up reminders on your phone throughout your day.
- Upon rising and going to bed I want you to repeat the words I AM ENOUGH.
- I want you to mark off each day on your I AM ENOUGH calendar.
- Each day account for your feelings in your journal.
When you like yourself , your life is extraordinary.
Until you work on the relationship with yourself there will always be a piece of the puzzle missing.
I’ve seen so many people strive in one are of their life and completely fail in others.
You can have all the money and still be unhappy or you can be beautiful and to still be lonely.
To live in balance with in all areas of your life begins with changing your mindset.
Your mind will always do what it thinks you want , that it’s job. So make sure you giving your mind the right instructions.
I am enough will give you the unshakable confidence and self belief to go after the life you want.
You will show up each day with certainty and appreciation of who you’re becoming.
So I encourage you to change your inner dialogue to your advantage and your life will become much easier and more enjoyable.
With love and gratitude,